As we’ve established, attracting more good into your life starts with living well. If you’re struggling with your life, you can change it. Just don’t give up. I only ask that you give up suffering, and figure out what a good life would be to you. A negative or depleted person is still attractive, but he only attracts more negativity and suffering. We’ve all heard the sayings, “Like attracts like” and, “Misery loves company.” Unhappy people attract unhappy circumstances so if you want to attract happier people, choose to be happier today, no matter what. 


It’s up to you to set the tone for how you’d like others to treat you. If people take advantage of you, and walk all over you, it’s because you have taught them it’s okay to do that. If people respect your boundaries and right to say ‘no’ you have taught them how to do that too. Just like you don’t want to be a steamroller, you don’t want to be a doormat either. Know your limits and get comfortable with advocating for yourself. Pay attention to your own inner signs that it’s time to put energy and focus back into yourself. 


One of the most loving things you can do for yourself is to practice extreme self care. This means systematically removing the poisonous, draining people and circumstances that deplete your energy, drag you down, and get in the way of you having a good life. Practice healthy boundaries and let people know when they’re crossing them. You are not being ‘nice’ to someone when you let them walk all over you. If you believe that it’s okay for people to disrespect you, you will attract disrespectful people.  


Even if you’ve learned to put up with, or take on a lot of stressors from the outside world, you will attract more good when you lift your burdens, and you will feel lighter. Lightness attracts light. It’s okay to say ‘No’ and walk away from things that don’t support you. If you need to step back from some relationships, don’t worry. There will always be somebody new to meet you at the next level.

 Principle of the Vacuum Law of Abundance  


Nature abhors a vacuum. This means that as you create space in your life, the space will be filled with something. If you’re intentionally removing negative influences and purposefully moving toward healthier people and things, the space will be filled with the good that you’re intending now.


Coaching Tip: You will have more room for the things you truly desire when you leave the baggage behind. So make room for something good!

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